We’ve all heard men lamenting that women are “impossible to understand”, “driven purely by emotion” and even “completely irrational”, but is there hope for men who wish to truly understand the workings of the female mind? I recently asked this question to a few close associates and was overwhelmed by the pessimistic responses I received. It seems that there are a great many folks under the impression that “men are from Mars and women are from Venus” and that never the two shall meet (in psychological harmony that is.)
I have a slightly different take on this. In my somewhat humble and only semi-professional opinion, I think that men can indeed come to understand the driving forces behind female thinking and behavior. Further, I propose that those men who are able to come to this understanding will inevitably enjoy far greater satisfaction in their romantic relationships with women. These beliefs are based on my own personal experience working with and socializing with numerous couples where the male partner clearly had a firm handle on what made his female counterpart tick. These men routinely used this understand of female psychology to their advantage and by all accounts appeared to enjoy passionate and relatively “drama free” relationships.
There have also been numerous books written on this topic of understanding women, from the male perspective, and the many benefits that men who take the time to understand women stand to enjoy. I won’t recommend any of these books over one another, as you will probably fair better by simply browsing Amazon and selecting one that focuses on the specific aspects of female psychology that you are most interested in, but I will briefly summarize the overarching theme found in these guides as well as many of the more enlightened “dating guides” available from dating coaches and others specializing in finding new relationships. As I’ve previously noted, there is a rather unfair stigma attached to learning dating skills from a coach (when you are a man), but I nonetheless recommend studying these materials if you genuinely wish to advance your understanding of this topic.
Basically, the idea is to forget everything that you think that you know about how the female mind works, as most of it is based on societal conditioning that really doesn’t serve your interests. removing these false beliefs about women and approaching the world of female psychology with a clean slate is an essentially important first step. From there, its simply a matter of familiarizing yourself with the driving forces behind female behavior and how they differ from those of men. Understanding these “root causes” for a woman’s behavior will allow you to be a more compassionate ad understanding partner, so that you can offer the woman in your life patience and support even when your male worldview would have otherwise dismissed her feels as irrational.
There is much more to this of course, but hopefully this will serve as a primer. Remember, with dedicated study and patience it relaly is possible to understand women!
Resource: Unlock Her Legs